The most important relationship in my life is my marriage. We’ve had our ups and downs over the years. We’ve learned a lot about communication and how to tend to each other’s hearts, mostly the hard way. We went to counseling years ago, and she taught us some basic principles of communication that we’ve practiced ever since. We are not experts at marriage, but we practice all the things we know and have found that it makes a difference.
When I was in my counseling program I was introduced to the Gottman Institute. The Gottmans are a husband and wife who have spent their career researching marriage relationships. In my marriage and family course, we learned that their research could predict divorce with tremendous accuracy. Their years of scientific research have identified behavioral patterns that weaken relationships.
One of the things I love most about this work is they not only identify what undermines marriage but also cataloged the things you can do to strengthen and support your marriage. Their YouTube channel is full of resources for both individuals, couples, and therapists.
I signed up for a daily email with relationship tips. I love these short reminders to pay attention to my husband’s heart. They remind me of things I already know but also encourage me to take small steps to strengthen our marriage.
Explore their website- https://www.gottman.com
Explore the YouTube Channel- https://www.youtube.com/user/TheGottmanInstitute